Perimenopause lost—reframing the end of menstruation

Ordinary women and official statements confuse and conflate perimenopause—the long, complex, life phase of higher and chaotic estrogen levels—with the low and stable estrogen levels of menopause. This paints both perimenopause and menopause with an inaccurate ‘estrogen deficiency’ brush. Menopause is the hormonal, and (except for hot flushes) the experiential opposite of perimenopause. This feminist analysis is from my perspective as physician‐scientist who experienced a perimenopause that was scientifically enlightening, but personally agonizing. Denial of perimenopausal and menopausal differences causes perimenopause to be ‘lost’ in several ways: (1) we may assume that perimenopause is chronic rather than ending in a largely asymptomatic menopause; (2) societal taboos isolate us, depriving us of solidarity with perimenopause ‘survivors’; (3) we are told we have dropping estrogen levels when our experiences, like pregnancy dreams, tell us the opposite; (4) gynaecology treats heavy flow with estrogen despite higher perimenopausal estrogen levels; (5) feminists ignore hormonal changes and attribute perimenopausal symptoms to (real) stresses of inferior social status and ageing; and (6) many of us thus become menopausal without the unique, self‐actualization experience that perimenopause has the potential to provide. Thus perimenopause—a valuable transition into knowing and standing up for ourselves—becomes lost.