Alternatives to vaginal intercourse practiced during the fertile time among calendar method users in Ireland

A pilot study was conducted in Ireland to test the effectiveness of the calendar method of contraception. A conservative rule was used, requiring on average 16 days of abstinence per cycle. Among the 19 couples who entered into the study and were followed for up to seven cycles, there were no pregnancies. Since the length of abstinence was relatively long, we collected data to determine how couples expressed love and affection towards each other during those days when the woman was potentially fertile. We also collected data about barrier method use during the fertile time. We found that almost all couples gave each other hugs and kisses to show affection although couples were taught to abstain from vaginal intercourse during the fertile time. About one-third of the couples avoided genital contact, while about half reported using oral sex and/or frottage (body rubbing). Twice as many men reported using masturbation compared to women, although about half of the couples practiced mutual (partner) masturbation. In addition, about one-fifth of the couples used condoms during the fertile time in some cycles. These findings show that a variety of sexual expressions are used by couples when vaginal intercourse is to be avoided. Knowledge about these alternative sexual expressions may be important for couples who wish to engage in sexual activity and to avoid pregnancy.